Men, are you bothered by persistent negative thoughts about your relationship? Do you feel you are being abused? Does your partner exhibit any of the following characteristics: uncontrolled temper, extremely jealous, fears abandonment, low self-esteem, to name a few.
The first one may involve yelling at you, usually out of nowhere. You're stunned and don't know what to do or say. She may apologise, you may forgive her, but the incident replays in your head. You may need the rewind technique. This idea was first put forward by Muss in 1991. It would go under the heading of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy as it is a mind game. The technique is said to help those with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
In your mind, sit yourself (#1) in a cinema seat towards the back. Near the front is another you, #2. #1 is going to observe #2 watching a sequence on the screen of a traumatic event. Let #1 watch the reaction of #2 to the drama unfolding. How are you feeling? Are you scared? Frightened? Do you want to run away, 1Z0-880 Exam Questions stop it? The film begins at a point before the trauma occurred and ends at a point when the trauma is over. Rewind back to the start or a pleasant memory. Was there a time when you were happy, when you were successful? Then at the point of the actual trauma #1 jumps into the film and feels the pain all over again. What does it look like? Where are you? What is happening? It is at this junction that you rewind back to the start or the pleasant memory. I have worked on this method myself when I was a driving instructor and had many traumatic moments. I usually rewound back to the start of the drive when everything was going OK. Others times I recalled moments of success like when a reluctant student has done an almost perfect test.
There are other occasions when this technique may be valuable like an abusive situation when you felt you had lost your power. Do this a few times. In a way that suits you. The crucial point is putting you in the picture of the trauma and just before the memory of the abuse, rewind to 1Z0-451 Exam Questions a pleasant memory. The idea behind it is to replace the traumatic memory with a positive one. The use of the mind in this exercise is a discipline which also helps to mitigate the memory. You should be able to sleep better at night if you have to do the exercise then. There is nothing worse than tossing and turning whilst your mind goes over the day's events and you feel frustrated. With a cleared mind, you may be able to address the problem or get past the trauma. [Muss, David. (1991). The Trauma trap. New York: Doubleday.]